Entries tagged with: coming out
photo: Passion Pit at Kings Theatre in May (more by Mimi Hong)
Main Passion Pit member Michael Angelakos appeared on the latest episode of Bret Easton Ellis' podcast. They talk about a lot in their hour-plus conversation, and as SPIN points out, Michael comes out as gay on the podcast. He says coming to terms with his sexuality is part of what led to his recent divorce with his ex-wife Kristy Mucci. He says:
At that time [while making Manners] I had broken up with my girlfriend, who inspired Chunk of Change [...] and that's when it started kicking up a lot of confusion as to what I liked in regards to my sexuality, in regards to even music, I was like "why am I making this electronic music? I wanna do all these other things." Anytime someone tells me that I'm good at one thing, that's when I want to do all the other things I like to do, which is a little bratty but you know. Specifically with my sexuality, it was just -- so unlike with bipolar it was like, "don't go to get help, don't talk to anybody." Because I lived in such a straight group of people -- not that anyone wasn't gonna be understanding -- it was just not the time.Listen to the whole podcast below...
...It was so easy at the time just to talk about girls, so I just kept writing about them. And also there was the narrative of the Chunk of Change EP: "he made it for his girlfriend!"
Brett: That's the myth.
Michael: That is a very true story. It's kinda funny. I laughed at it 'cause I was like "no one's gonna believe this," and sure enough it was the only thing anyone wrote about it. Still to this day. But I will say that I was going through so many difficult issues with girls in general that when I started dating my wife, she just quieted them so much so. She was such a good friend that it became kind of a non-issue. I was like "okay so I don't have to think about it for now." It's always been about putting it off in my head. Not consciously. I don't know what your experience with it was, but when you're kind of teetering on the edge of heterosexuality or homosexuality or whatever, you don't really know what's going on. It's just so much more comfortable to keep going back to what you know. [...] I just didn't wanna deal with other people.
Brett: But didn't your wife ever question it? Did you guys ever talk about it?
Michael: Yeah from day one she knew I was bisexual. And that's something I've always said to people I'm very close with, and I would drop it in a way where it's like, "Please, can we talk about it?" But obviously everyone was just like "Okay." And probably thought it was bullshit. But at that time I just wanted so badly to be straight. Because I love her so much. I think that was one of the most painful things about when we decided to separate. She said, "I don't want anyone to think that this is your fault because you're gay, it's not your fault." And she was so sweet about it because when I decided to really deal with it, like head on -- which was I don't know in June -- she was the one who kind of spearheaded it in a way but then said, "You have to take it from here." She said, "Whatever happens right now is whatever, but you need to figure out what's going with your sexuality. You can't hate yourself anymore. And you can't be buying all these things that people are saying about you. You have a very rich and interesting life that cannot be condensed into an article."
Frank Ocean at Coachella 2012 (more by David Andrako)
Odd Future affiliated R&B singer Frank Ocean posted a note to his tumblr titled "thank you's," which was "intended to fill the thank you's section in [his] album credits, but with all the rumors going round.. [he] figured it'd be good to clarify." The rumors he was referring to were regarding his sexuality and were based on the inclusion of male pronouns on his upcoming album, Channel Orange (due out 7/17 via Def Jam). In the tumblr note, Frank Ocean describes how his first love was with a man that he spent entire summers with when both Frank and the other man had girlfriends. You can read his entire note below.
Though he doesn't explicitly identity as gay or bisexual in the note, Frank's coming out was a bit of a risky move in the hip hop and R&B community, and especially for a member of Odd Future, who have long been criticized for homophobic lyrics (though member Syd tha Kyd, whose project The Internet recently announced a tour, is openly a lesbian). However, Frank has gotten huge support all around. Fellow Odd Future member Tyler, the Creator tweeted, "My Big Brother Finally Fucking Did That. Proud Of That Nigga Cause I Know That Shit Is Difficult Or Whatever. Anyway. Im A Toilet." Def Jam boss Russell Simmons wrote a letter titled, "The Courage Of Frank Ocean Just Changed The Game!", in which he writes:
Today is a big day for hip-hop. It is a day that will define who we really are. How compassionate will we be? How loving can we be? How inclusive are we?Frank Ocean will be touring this month in support of his new album. That tour brings him to NYC for a sold out show at Terminal 5 on July 26.
I am profoundly moved by the courage and honesty of Frank Ocean. Your decision to go public about your sexual orientation gives hope and light to so many young people still living in fear. These types of secrets should not matter anymore, but we know they do, and because of that I decided to write this short statement of support for one of the greatest new artists we have.
His gifts are undeniable. His talent, enormous. His bravery, incredible. His actions this morning will uplift our consciousness and allow us to become better people. Every single one of us is born with peace and tranquility in our heart. Frank just found his.
Frank, we thank you. We support you. We love you.
Read Frank's full note below...
Gotye at Webster Hall in March (more by Ryan Muir
Last Friday (6/29), it was revealed that CNN was among the group of news outlets (including Fox News and The Huffington Post) who wrongly reported that the individual mandate central to President Obama's health care legislation was struck down. As you know, and as they quickly corrected, the court actually ruled that the provision could be upheld as a tax. In a statement regarding the incident, CNN senior vice president Sam Feist said, "Today we failed to adhere to our own standard, namely it's better to be right than to be first. We take mistakes seriously, especially mistakes on such important stories." (via Huffington Post).
Obamacare isn't the only thing that CNN has gotten wrong in the past week though. NME reports that last night (7/1), CNN's iReport program broadcasted that Gotye had committed suicide. Here's the statement: "'At 4:32 AM EST, it was reported that Gotye had shot himself in the head with a 9mm handgun. He was pronounced dead at 4.45AM, and the investigation concluded that the cause of death was suicide.'' Meanwhile, Gotye took to twitter soon after, tweeting, "I'm not dead. #Pinkalbumtitles." CNN has since removed the post. Tim Shiel of Gotye's touring band had fun with the mishap, and took to twitter himself, saying, "it saddens me to confirm the news of @gotye's passing- he suffered cardiac arrest while flying a unicorn over a double rainbow" and "don't panic the @gotye world tour is still going ahead, with special guest Terence Trent D'arby. its what wally would have wanted" (referencing Gotye's birth name, Wouter "Wally" De Backer and Terence Trent D'arby, one of the singers who briefly took over when fellow Australian band INXS replaced their lead singer). So for anyone who may have been worried by CNN's false report, Gotye will be live and well for his North American tour which hits NYC twice in September.
In other more exciting CNN news, CNN anchor Anderson Cooper, who has avoided talking about his personal life for years, finally came out as gay. In an email to Andrew Sullivan (who is also an openly gay news reporter), Cooper said, "The fact is, I'm gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn't be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud."
Against Me! singer Tom Gabel reveals plans to begin living as a woman in the new issue of Rolling Stone. Gabel, who has dealt privately with gender dysphoria for years, will soon begin the process of transition, by taking hormones and undergoing electrolysis treatments.Against Me! will soon hit the road with The Cult and hit Terminal 5 in NYC along the way.
Gabel will eventually take the name Laura Jane Grace, and will remain married to her wife Heather. "For me, the most terrifying thing about this was how she would accept the news," says Gabel. "But she's been super-amazing and understanding."
Chuck Ragan's band Hot Water Music has some shows coming up and a new album.